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The Loving Roots Project founder, clinical psychologist, and relationship coach, Dr. Shelley Sommerfeldt, has been featured in several media publications. Click an article below to read more.

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Wedding wire

HOw to make amends with an in-law before the wedding

There’s no denying that wedding planning can be stressful, especially considering the fact that it involves so many people, many of whom are playing important roles in the big day itself. Chances are, your parents and in-laws have strong opinions about how they’d like things to go down. This can naturally create some drama and tension, not to mention arguments and disdain, within the family.

“Tensions tend to rise during the wedding-planning phase due to high levels of stress, heightened emotions and conflicts about traditions or even finances,” explains Shelley Sommerfeldt, Psy.D., clinical psychologist who specializes in relationships.

authority magazine

it’s important to maintain & nourish relationships with family members who are champions for mental wellness

I had the pleasure of interviewing Shelley Sommerfeldt, Psy.D., a Clinical Psychologist and the owner of the Loving Roots Project. Dr. Sommerfeldt founded the Loving Roots Project, an online coaching practice, with the mission of providing inspirational and motivational content as a way to promote positive mental health and wellness.

Prior to this, Dr. Sommerfeldt spent many years working with high risk and underserved populations as well as a small group private practice focusing on couples and relationship-related issues.


how to deal with low self-esteem in a relationship

Self-esteem can be very challenging and when we are lacking in confidence, it can feel impossible to change that.

It is also very difficult in relationships because people can project their own insecurities onto their partner or take out their frustrations and lack of confidence on others.

So working toward building your self-esteem is essential. It is also important to remember that your self-esteem is not the responsibility of your partner or of the relationship.

We should not rely on our partner’s feedback and viewpoints to help validate and build our own self-esteem.

Martha Stewart Weddings

How “We Talk” Can Help Strengthen Your Marriage

"When we speak about situations or difficulties and use only a singular pronoun, such as 'I' or 'me,' it can feel very lonely, but simply saying 'we' instead can help you to feel supported and less alone in the situation," says Shelley Sommerfeldt, Psy.D., clinical psychologist who specializes in relationships. "This is especially helpful in relationships as this changes the situation from a couple facing a problem together as 'we' versus 'me' or 'you' have a problem alone. This team mentality, as she refers to it, can help to strengthen the marriage.

Martha Stewart Weddings

Here’s what happens to your body and brain when you’re in love

When we're in love, we feel happier on a chemical level thanks to an increase of dopamine, otherwise known as the "feel-good chemical" in the brain. "When people fall in love, their dopamine level spikes creating feelings of happiness and pleasure," says Shelley Sommerfeldt, Psy.D., clinical psychologist who specializes in relationships. "Due to these euphoric dopamine rushes, we then feel a strong desire to continue these positive feelings and want to be with our love interest more and more."


11 subtle questions to ask your partner if you’re worried they’re falling out of love

If you're in a long-term relationship, it's possible there will be moments when it feels like your partner is falling out of love, growing distant, or pulling away. And to some degree, that's completely natural. All relationships have high points and low points. But if you keep communicating, it's possible to get through to them and come out the other side healthier than ever.

If your partner seems distant, start by asking about their life in general. "Ask about your partner’s day, how their work is going, or something pertaining to their hobbies or interests," clinical psychologist and wellness coach, Shelley Sommerfeldt, PsyD, tells Bustle.


7 Things Your Partner might not say if they’re taking you for granted

Although it shouldn't always be expected, it's nice to be recognized by your partner for the things you do for them. In a healthy and balanced partnership, both you and your partner should feel like you're getting just as much as you give. If not, it can leave you feeling like you're being taken for granted. 

"Taking a partner for granted means that one feels they are under-appreciated, undervalued, or that they are working harder in the relationship than their significant other," clinical psychologist, Shelley Sommerfeldt, Psy.D., tells Bustle. 

Thrive global

it’s important to maintain and nourish relationships with family members who are champions for mental wellness

The thing that we can change is ourselves. We can change our outlook, our mindset, our perspective, our boundaries, our self-care, who we surround ourselves with and ultimately our own happiness. When people are struggling with mental health issues, it can feel very alone and as though it will never get better. I had the pleasure of interviewing, Dr. Shelley Sommerfeldt the owner of the Loving Roots Project ….

Interracial Dating central

80 Relationship Experts Reveal how Interracial couples can face challenges

As we know from our current political and social climate, racism is alive and well in this country and unfortunately, this is also true amongst family members and relatives. The viewpoints of others and difficulties that interracial couples face are very challenging.

Here are some examples of the reasons behind many challenges and some tips to handle the situation:

Reasons Behind Challenges:

- People may hold preconceived notions about one person due to their beliefs, views, and stereotypes about entire races and cultures.

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