Women Share Real Ways to Heal from Heartbreak on X, and It’s More Honest Than Any Advice Column

Written By Dr. Shelley Sommerfeldt

A single post on X asking for the fastest real way to get over an ex drew well over 120,000 views (at the time of this posting) and hundreds of replies from women sharing honest stories about heartbreak. The answers ranged from practical things to some that were raw and darkly funny, like magnifying his flaws, hitting the gym, staying busy, journaling a lot, or trying to forget by not giving the memory attention. Some admitted to messier approaches, like rebounds, going back until the attraction fades, or just sitting with the pain until it weakens. The thread resonated not because everyone agreed, but because so many people saw themselves in it and found it so relatable.

From a relationship psychology perspective, the variety of responses makes sense. Heartbreak disrupts our attachment system, and people naturally turn to different ways to cope, like distraction, finding meaning, working through emotions, or even avoiding the pain. Some strategies help in the short term, others help in the long run, and many people try several before they really move on. The thread shows an important truth: there isn’t one right way to heal, only what helps each person right now.

What makes this conversation powerful is the mix of tough love, self-compassion, and community. Humor helps ease the pain. Sharing stories makes people feel less alone. Seeing others get through heartbreak, and even grow from it, gives hope when logic isn’t enough. Healing usually doesn’t happen alone, and this thread shows how being honest together can help.

If there’s one lesson here, it’s that heartbreak doesn’t need to be rushed or made perfect. It needs space, support, and the freedom to be real and messy. Sometimes, the quickest way forward isn’t to avoid the pain, but to let yourself feel it, knowing it won’t last forever.

Blog post sponsored by MillionaireMatch.com

Blog written by: Dr. Shelley Sommerfeldt, Clinical Psychologist, Relationship Coach & Founder of the Loving Roots Project, who’s teamed up with MillionaireMatch to bring you expert content about dating and healthy relationships.

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