Dr. Shelley Sommerfeldt Dr. Shelley Sommerfeldt

From Engagement to Marriage:

An engagement isn’t just about planning a wedding—it’s about preparing for a lifetime together. While the flowers and celebrations matter, the true foundation of marriage is built on shared goals, daily connection, healthy habits, and a commitment to growing side by side. Start investing in your relationship now, and you’ll be building not just a wedding to remember, but a love that lasts.

Building a Love That Lasts

Getting engaged is one of the most exciting seasons of life—it’s a celebration of love, hope, and the promise of forever. Between planning the wedding, sharing the news with friends and family, and imagining your future together, it’s easy to get swept up in the excitement. But here’s the beautiful truth: the engagement isn’t just about planning a wedding, it’s about laying the foundation for a healthy, thriving marriage.

Many couples spend months preparing for their big day but forget to prepare for the years that follow. Research shows that couples who are intentional about their relationship—setting shared goals and building systems to sustain their love—are more likely to feel connected and satisfied long-term. So while you’re picking flowers and tasting cakes, here are a few ways to invest in your relationship for the journey ahead:

1. Create Shared Goals

Talk openly about what you want your future to look like together. From financial planning to family traditions, from career dreams to travel adventures—being on the same page now prevents misunderstandings later. Shared goals give your marriage direction and keep you working as a team.

2. Keep Dating Each Other

The engagement is just the beginning of your love story. Don’t stop doing the things that brought you close in the first place. Plan date nights, surprise each other with small gestures, and keep exploring new adventures together. Staying curious about each other keeps the spark alive.

3. Practice Healthy Habits Early

A strong marriage is built on communication, respect, and gratitude. Make space for honest conversations, learn to resolve conflicts with kindness, and make a habit of saying “thank you” for the little things. These habits, started now, will carry into the years ahead and strengthen your bond.

4. Build Your Support System

Surround yourselves with mentors, supportive friends, or even premarital counseling. Having guidance and encouragement can help you navigate challenges and celebrate milestones along the way.

5. Celebrate Growth, Not Just Milestones

Engagements and weddings are huge moments—but don’t forget to celebrate the small victories, too. A resolved disagreement, a week of intentional connection, or simply supporting each other through stress are all wins worth acknowledging.

The Bottom Line: An engagement is a joyful beginning, but the real adventure lies in creating a marriage filled with connection, growth, and intention. By setting goals, nurturing habits of love, and committing to ongoing growth, you’ll be building not just a wedding day to remember, but a lifelong partnership to treasure.

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Blog written by: Dr. Shelley Sommerfeldt, Clinical Psychologist, Relationship Coach & Founder of the Loving Roots Project, an online practice specializing in personal growth, mental wellness, & relationship betterment.

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